About — May

I'm May. I've spent the last few years organizing systems, people, transitions — and myself.

I've worked in strategy, product, and operations. I've lived in different cities. I left relationships that no longer fit. I changed careers more than once. I lost people. I started over. And in each transition, I developed a way of thinking that helped me — and started helping the people around me.

I combined mathematical modeling with five years in HR. Entrepreneurship with therapy. Grief with curiosity. Depression with frameworks. And I realized that the combination of human depth and strategic intelligence is rare — and useful.

What I believe

That clarity doesn't come from having more information, but from separating signal from noise.
That most hard decisions aren't about logic — they're about identity.
That you don't need to figure out your whole life at once. You need the next truest step.
That fear isn't a sign that something is wrong. Sometimes it's a sign that something important is close.
That thinking better is a skill — and it can be trained.

This space

I built this site as a place to organize what I've learned and turn it into tools that other people can use. It's not therapy. It's not coaching. It's structure for thinking better about what matters — in the moments when your head is more confused than it should be.

The tools here are based on thinking frameworks I use in my own life: Fear Setting, Design Your Life, Nonviolent Communication, mental models from Farnam Street, and a few tension pairs I created by observing my own patterns and those of the people around me.

If something here helps you think more clearly about a hard decision, then this site has served its purpose.